Today, I was holding hands with my friend (I’m female).
A random girl comes up to us and said we looked like a lovely couple.
My friend smiled as I said “He’s Gay.”
She looked him dead in the eyes and said “You are such a brave person” then looked at me and said “And you a great friend” She GMH.
I’m sorry to jump onto someone’s GMH post to rant about something, but I feel I need to say something.
Things like this bother me. I’m gay, and of course homophobia bothers me like nothing else. But what I want is to be treated like any other person. When someone goes up to a gay couple on the streets and say “wow you’re so brave for being gay in public” or whatever, they’re still singling them out as different. It’s not offensive or anything, and I know they mean well, but it still sits weird with me. It still pushes into my mind that I’m different and people are gonna stare, whether they’re homophobic or not. I just want to blend into the background and feel like everyone else, even if I’m holding my girlfriend’s hand.
My goal is to come out as gay to someone and get the response “well, okay then. good for you” and not the shock and surprise I get from haters and supporters alike.
Am I the only one that feels this way?
Hi there. I run LGBTgivesmehope.
I wholeheartedly agree with your comment by the way - and I thought the exact same when I posted it.
Of course, I was not the original poster so I cannot comment on behalf of the people who were there. But from this particular story, all I could assume was that the stranger called the boy brave for not lying to ‘fit in’. That she understands not everybody is so accepting, and so she personally would consider it brave.
I also don’t know the sort of area that they live in. If it’s a particularly conservative area, the stranger may consider it brave as there could be many people there who disagree with the boy’s ‘way of life’, for lack of a better word.
But a positive response is at least a step in the direction of it not being so different, right? I hate to compare it to racial intolerance but I’m sure mixed race couples experienced a similar sort of thing until they (mostly, once again, depending where you live) became another norm.
So, no, you are not alone at all. But I am the GMH fairy and I am here to spread hope to the followers of my blog and am determined to make your face do the smiley emote. Do I win? Is your heart filled with the warms of hope?